One of my biggest personality traits is an overwhelming need to "help out". Not that there is anything wrong with wanting to help others but I can get too aggressive about it. I mean well, but...I can be just too much sometimes. I know this about myself, I've been told many times, almost always sweetly and with love and understanding (although sometimes not, lol!) that the person understands I'm trying to be helpful but they just want to vent or have a sympathetic listener. I am not always needed to jump in and "Fix Things" for them.

They'll let me know if they want my help, thank you very much. 

So I'm trying very very hard (yes I'm VERY trying, lol!) to give my husband the space he needs and trust him to know what's best for this journey he is on. I can make suggestions always but  he's in charge. Even though every fiber of my being wants to run things for him, make sure everything is as perfect as possible for him so he can continue to be successful. 

But although my motivation is good, expressing this can come off as punitive.

So I'm TRYING my best to let him handle this on his own while still being utterly supportive.

It is a work in progress! Wish me well! 😍

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